Ok everyone, I figured out our problems with social media. All of them! No really, everyone whines and complains about how much of a time-suck all these social sites are, and how "I'm going to delete my Facebook!" Etc etc. How many times have we heard it? Or said it yourself? Don't lie. The first step is being honest with yourself ;)
Social media helps you feel feelings or it helps you NOT feel feelings.
Think about it.
Check out my Instagram, y'all. When I take photos for this beloved social site, what do you think I'm feeling? Happy, blissful, joyous, sentimental... Positive goshdarnit! When I look back over my photos I feel UP, rather than DOWN or neutral. Do you think this is on accident? Heck no. Why would I CHOOSE the photos on this site? Obviously so that others can feel positive about me, which coincides about how I feel about myself. You are kidding yourself if you can't admit that your social media sites are not for YOU. I see my dog every day - why do I need to have so many pictures of the cute way he sleeps? For YOU. And also, you're welcome ;)
I discovered this secret to social media tonight as I was perusing the day's events on Facebook. I scroll and scroll until something catches my eye. I stop on something sad and heart-warming. Nope, keep scrolling scrolling scrolling. I stop on a stupid meme about goats being toted... YES this is just what I'm in the mood for! Like (maybe Share)! Scroll and scroll to anything about the news or politics (aka depression galore) and just. keep. scrolling. right on past that until hopefully I find another Buzzfeed list about Taylor Hanson's new haircut.
Get it?? Why social media is so addicting and why we can't stop tuning in against our better judgment and how many minutes (or hours) of our lives it wastes? If I want to laugh, I can CHOOSE to look at things that are funny. If I am PMS-ing and need a good cry, remind me where those photos of soldiers surprising their daughters at school were again? Show me the photos that will change how I see humanity, please!
Just tonight, I caught myself skimming over (and ultimately not reading) something very touching and God-centered that I am sure would have made me cry - or at the very least use my brain and tune into my heart. But I feel like being happy, right? I don't want to feel feelings right now. I just want to "chill," it's been a long day at work. Ya feel me? But I definitely could have gained some insight from aforementioned piece, whether about myself, others, or society in general.
So what does this mean to me now? What am I to do with this information?
I think it's very important to choose your activities during the day, and that should include social media surfing. I'm the first to admit that when I get home from work I like to "catch up" on what I missed from the day on my Facebook, Instagram, Vine, Twitter, Yelp, etc. Holy cow there are a lot of those!
it is probably a better use of my time to SCHEDULE moments for inspiration when I'm craving inspiration. To seek humor when I'm feeling silly. To take time to BE with myself when I'm feeling negative or upset about something. It's way too easy to be upset and flip on my iPad to distract me. It's okay to feel what you are feeling, whether it's happiness, anger, sadness.
We hate social media because we do not allow ourselves to be ourselves on it. We get to have too much control over our "life" and that's not how life is designed to be! It's stressing us out. Try to be more aware of how you use social media, and if you are not allowing yourself to listen to yourself. Then fix it, and be happy 😁