De-stress, make time for yourself, and live a happier life. Stop being busy.
BUT there's a difference between being active and being busy. On the outside, you want to appear busy because for some reason it has come to mean your life is full. People KNOW you and NEED you, and you have a lot of STUFF to deal with. But on the inside, don't you ever feel like there's no real time for yourself? You seem to be running yourself ragged to please a lot of people, or to be the perfect mom/wife, be the perfect student or employee, make a lot of money to accumulate a lot of things that don't have any real value in the big picture.
Busy-ness can also make you a jerk! The cashier is taking too long at the grocery store - you have a lot to do, you don't have TIME for him to take so long. So as he smiles and says "Have a good day!" you rush off in a huff with a scowl on your face, to go take care of something you probably don't want to do anyway. I see this happen all. the. time. Or you are so worried about getting everything done (and perfectly) that you miss chances for real interaction or conversation with your husband (yes, true story - just last night actually). I had a lot of little things going on yesterday that I felt so much pressure to finish strong! And instead of coming home and releasing that tense energy, I let it stay with me and I was kind of a jerk! I looked at Ben and said, "I am literally in the middle of writing a blog post on this right now." With busy-ness comes pressure and worry and tension. Who needs that day in and day out?
STOP glorifying being BUSY!
When was the last time you didn't have anything to do? Don't get me wrong, I love time spent with my friends and family, and I LOVE activities - all of those things are a big part of a healthy, active lifestyle. But I much prefer waking up in the morning and saying "Hmm, what am I going to do today?" rather than waking up with a list of commitments I pre-filled my day with, that I don't feel like wasting my life doing.
Whenever I sense that Ben and I are getting caught up in everyone else's business and feeling the strain of "busy-ness," I'll look at him and say, "If you could do anything in the world right now, what would it be?"
Shouldn't we wake up every day with that thought? How would your life look if you worked toward freedom to do what you want? What is holding you back? If you have over-committed your time, and you can't even imagine what a life of freedom would be like, what kind of life are you living?
"Busy" is not a blessing. It is 100 percent OK (admirable, even) to be the person who goes for a stroll downtown or on the beach, reads a book in bed, goes fishing just because you feel like it. Cramming too much STUFF into your day stresses you out and takes the focus off of what your true happiness is - what a truly fulfilled life looks like.
3 Things to tell yourself TODAY
2. The world isn't going to end if you don't cross something off your list.
3. There is more to life than making plans.